Any successful person would fully agree with this fact that to be successful in life one needs to possess the ability to decline at times,the ability to reject certain propositions, the ability to disregard the things. My current state of mind has been entirely because I dont possess this ability. During my tenure outside Jammu when I was in Mumbai/ Pune for studies and job, I had slowly cultivated this ability but I was destined not to have this quality in me. The beauty of this thought goes to my experiences in 2009 wherein I left Pune for Jammu. Had I taken the decision not to go ahead I would have never come to Jammu and probably could not have entered into this second phase. Once this event occurred, it triggered a series of other events which again had a huge bearing on my life and probably could have severe impact on me in due times to come.This tragedy of not saying NO has virtually ripped me off. I have no clues of what is gonna happen in future but the fright keeps me awake ...